A Mother's Love

I was watching Wendy Williams the other night and she was talking about an interview that Tamar Braxton had done regarding how she felt after the recent birth of her son.  Here is an excerpt from the article in Sister to Sister Magazine:

Tamar said, "Her love for her first born wasn’t immediate, but he’s definitely stolen her heart now.  Immediately everything changes, but immediately you don’t fall in love. I heard that, that you do, but somebody lied. Just like you fall in love with a person, it’s just like that. They’re little people,” explained Tamar who loves to watch her son with his father."  Apparently after Tamar made this statement she caught some flack from people saying how could she not be immediately in love with her son.  

When I read Tamar's statement I couldn't help but feeling like "that was me"!  I asked myself after having Bryn was something wrong with me that I didn't feel this overwhelming sense of love that everyone described that you have after they are born.  Of course you love your child and you will do anything for them after they are born but it took weeks to fall in love.  It is life altering and the hardest adjustment I have ever had to deal with.  Once I got past the recovery from labor and started feeling somewhat normal and she would look up and smile at me, that's when it hit me.  Now I love her with all my heart and couldn't imagine life without her.

I respect Tamar for her honesty.  Most people would never admit feeling that way for fear of ridicule especially since she is someone in the spotlight.

~SheHerbert

Full article in Sister to Sister Magazine

http://s2smagazine.com/75469/tamar-braxton-dishes-on-baby-logan-the-real/

Round 3 Elimination

So as I have been watching a lot of these food documentaries on Netflix it is really making me decide that it's time to eliminate something from my life.  I really want to change my eating habits not just to lose weight but to be more healthy and change my lifestyle.  Giving up sugar is going to be so hard to do but I realize I need to do it.  The hardest part will be eating out or when I am with family or friends and just staying on track.  One of the people in the documentary "Hungry For Change" said its not about telling yourself not to eat something but training yourself not to want that bad food anymore.  

I never really considered myself a disciplined person when it comes to giving things up.  As I reflect back on two things I eliminated from my life I realize it wasn't discipline that motivates me but its knowing its something I have to do to be a better me.  Those two things that I have eliminated were drinking alcohol and cursing.

Not that I had a major drinking problem or anything I really had become just a social wine drinker in my adult years.  I made the final decision to stop drinking in August 2009 after I picked a stupid fight when i was drunk with my then fiancé now husband and I had to say to myself was it really worth it.  I also had the worst hangover of my life and I said its time for change.  The little bit of fun I had being drunk wasn't worth the later repercussions.  That was it for me and I haven't had a drink in almost 4 years.  The hardest part at first was hanging with friends or family and they wonder why I wasn't having any wine or was I pregnant or what had changed.  When I couldn't name one positive thing about drinking that's when I knew I made a right decision.  

Now with cursing that was a little harder to stop doing because it was something that was so easy to just rattle off out my mouth and I didn't have to be angry but it was just general conversation.  Was it that I thought my story sounded better or funnier when I cursed?  I don't know honestly.  Eliminating it from my mouth when I was angry was the hardest but I have come to be not nearly as angry or hot tempered as I used to be.  I think it made me a happier person.  I also think I made God happier because there are so many scriptures referencing the words that come out our mouths and how He doesn't want us speak obscenities.  

Why am I going into such detail about these things?  Because its time for round 3 elimination of toxic things in my life.  For now I will start with food choices but I know there are other toxins that need removing too. 

~SheHerbert 

Get it right, get it tight!

Well it's official...it's time to lose some weight for real.  Why is it so easy to gain but so hard to lose?  This is going to be hard but I have to do it.  Having a child is no joke on the change to your body (at least for me).  Now that Bryn is hardly nursing I dont have to make sure I eat enough calories to make enough milk.  I can focus on me and getting my figure back and get back in the two closets of clothes that I can no longer fit.  25 pounds would be cool, 30 pounds even better, 35 pounds would be awesome!  I am going to try and use the myfitness pal app which seems like a free weight watchers.  I also am going to cut out a lot of cheese and meat from my diet along with a lot of other crap.  My journey begins tomorrow.  Encouragement and prayers are welcome :-)

To be continued.....

~SheHerbert

Got Milk?

So any of my friends or family that know me well know since having Bryn know how determined I was to exclusively breast feed her and I was successful at that and still going.  I am so excited to start on a new venture as a Lactation Specialist working for the health department here in Mississippi.  My job will be breast feeding education, support, and issuing pumps.  I am looking forward to this job since I am passionate about mothers nursing and now I get to educate others about the benefits.  When I think about how God created our bodies to make this perfect food for our babies it amazes me what are bodies are able to do.  

~SheHerbert

I Am Not My Hair

Well to those who haven’t noticed I recently in January cut all my hair off (See my profile pic).  This is the shortest my hair has definitely been in my life and I never thought I would have the guts to do it.  I had been talking about cutting it for years and finally did it.  My husband was supportive and gave me the ok even though I was scared he would hate it.  Most of my friends and family miss my long hair and are having a hard time adjusting to the new look.  I cried and thought I was ugly at first and even felt hurt from comments that people made but I realized that I can’t worry about what others think.  Since cutting it has truly made me reflect whether we place beauty on the wrong things.  I feel like people don’t like my haircut because they felt my long hair was so beautiful but what I learned about myself is I am still the same person and it’s just hair and it can grow back if I want it to.  I felt as if my hair was defining who I was and I don’t want something physical to define me, my character or beauty.  

~SheHerbert